To My Sister Now that We're Grown Ups

Growing up I always felt like I was probably adopted because I was so different from the rest of my family. I never felt "out of place" or anything like that I just felt different. I was somewhat shy, I had my own "style" that was maybe a bit weird, and the only thing my little sister and I really had in common was that we both played softball (even though I was way better). I never thought about it until I had my own children but it isn't easy finding common ground with a sibling that's younger and my sister was a whopping 4 years younger. On top of our age difference that I was boy-crazy and met my husband when I was 13 (she was only 9) and you have a recipe for possible disaster. 

         I always loved my sister, I know that but as an adult I question how often I said or showed it. I never thought about how my decisions changed her life and how that changed our relationship forever. 

    A few years ago something changed, it was like I woke up one morning and my sister became this adult that I could vent to- her ear vigilant and trustworthy to my troubles and secrets. She actually listens to my problems and honestly gives me advice (good advice- not just what I want to hear). She loves my children and I love her dogs. She loves my husband like a brother and even takes his side sometimes. She comforts me when I'm upset and I'm pretty sure she would murder someone for me if I needed and guess how I know that? Because I would kill for her too. 

Somehow somewhere along the way my sister became "my person" (Grey's Anatomy reference-she will appreciate that). My sister works so hard and honestly is way smarter and hard-working than I will ever be. I can't wait to see her become a mother and one day I just know we will be little old ladies griping at one another and one-upping each other showing off our grandchildren.

I'm convinced that you only have sisters for like 18 years and then they cease being sisters and magically

turn into something better: best friends.

I'm so proud of you and everything you're doing. I love you completely and unconditionally, forever.